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| More Tags: In general it is safer to date servicemen met at church or other well-sponsored functions which attract self-respecting and respectable young people. A young man in uniform usually behaves the same where he's stationed as he did back home. If he frequented poolrooms and public dance halls at home, that will be the kind of place to which he will gravitate no matter where he is stationed. The studious young man will search out the library when he gets a leave. The serviceman who grew up enjoying Y youth group functions will be on the alert for announcements of similar activities. This is why you must go to the right places to meet the right people. The boy you meet in a tavern may be as fine a person as the serviceman you meet at a church social, but the chances are that more conventional behavior will be found under church auspices than under the influence of alcohol. SUMMING UP The difference in age or status between members of a dating couple is important only to the extent that it influences a relationship. The important thing is that a couple enjoy each other's company, share enough interests so that they can build a relationship around mutual activities, and see eye to eye on enough of life so that they are a real pair. The Right Date for You Young people are rightly concerned about whom to date and whom not to date. Get a good date, and you have fun, your parents approve, and your friends welcome you to social affairs. Get someone your parents and friends dislike, or someone you don't find companionable, and you can have a miserable time. Sometimes it also happens that the person your parents consider a fine date leaves you cold, and the one you would like to date just doesn't rate with your friends and family. Then what? WHEN PARENTS DISAPPROVE Whether they know your date or not, your parents may disapprove of him or her. They may not like your date's family and background. They may believe that there is too great an age difference between the two of you. They may be concerned about differences in religion, nationality, or social and economic background. They may have heard something unfavorable about your date or his family. Or they may disapprove of anyone in whom you're interested, simply because they don't want to see you involved with anyone yet. Whatever the reasons for parents' disapproval, the problem is a real one. Young people themselves generally agree that dating on the sly is not a good solution to the problem of parents' disapproval. Someone is sure to discover the situation, and parents become doubly aroused over the deception. Defying your parents and dating the person of whom they disapprove is apt to be unpleasant for everyone concerned. Yielding to parents' wishes and refraining from dating anyone of whom they disapprove can be limiting; sometimes, unfortunately, even prejudiced and restricting. Young people argue that they should have the right to choose their own friends without constant interference from their parents. At the same time youth generally acknowledges parents' right to be interested and concerned about their children's dating partners and patterns. |