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"Love Tips For The Christian Man."
Dating Can Be Tough When It Comes To Staying
True To God, But Its Not Impossible...
If there was ever a balancing act in our lives, it's the
one in which we have to balance our desires, and our
beliefs.
Speaking to you as someone who's struggled, at times, with
his faith and his urges as a man, I believe I have a unique
perspective on how the two fit together.
It is natural to want to stay true to what we believe in.
And for most Christian men, it is important that love occur
within the boundaries of church.
One of those boundaries is that sex should only happen once
married.
I don't judge this tenant. Some people choose to follow it.
I believe this is just as valid as the people who choose not
to follow it.
Ancient cultures used to believe that when partaking in
sex, a part of the other person's soul would mingle with
yours, and that you'd carry that person around with you for
the rest of your life.
In some respects, this is true. So the doctrine to keep
your virginity for your wife is a wise one.
But this presents a unique challenge for those men out
there who wish to stay true to their faith.
How do continue to attract a woman and foster a
relationship if you have to wait until marriage to consummate
it?
After all - sex is important! Getting married to someone
who's sexually incompatible with you can be a very difficult
union to be in.
Here is some advice I've come up with specifically for men
who face this issue of romance vs. faith.
1. Be clear about what you believe.
Our faith is meant to guide us through life. Because of
this, it is very important to be clear on what it is you
believe.
God gave us free will and the ability to think and reason.
It is up to us to look at all our options and decide what path
to take. You may believe in some of what the Church teaches,
but not all. Or, you may embrace all of the Church's
teachings.
No matter what your choice, you must be clear on what it is
you believe, and stick to it!
2. Understand that God has a plan for
you
You must trust in the fact that there is a woman out there
you are meant to be with, and God has a plan to unite you with
her.
But there is only so much God can do! After all, we are
beings of free will, and it is up to us to take action and
seize the opportunities God presents to us.
That means we must be proactive in finding the right woman
for us.
Going out and meeting women, taking them on dates, getting
to know them - this is not just stuff that happens. We have to
MAKE it happen. And it is our actions which keep us on the
path God has set out for us, because our actions are based on
what we believe.
3. Know that Virginity is not mystical or
precious.
Many people have a notion that virginity is something to be
prized, but it really isn't. Sex is just an act. It's just
like breathing, or walking, or exercising. It is something we
do.
God meant for man to be fruitful and multiply. We are meant
to have sex. It is one of God's greatest gifts. If we were not
meant to have sex, He would not have made it pleasurable.
So to look at your virginity as something sacred is not
helpful. Virginity is meant to be lost - the real challenge is
finding the right person to lose it to!
In the end, there is a spiritual aspect to sex. It's the
aspect that you find someone who makes you feel whole, alive,
and loved. This is something separate from the act of sex,
because this touches you on a deeper level.
It is this type of intimacy you should strive to achieve
before marriage, because this will help you to know if the
physical aspect will be in tune as well.
Do not be afraid to be intimate with women! Kissing,
hugging, touching - this is all fine. But sharing your hopes
and dreams, staring deep into her eyes and feeling her
inner-most desires... that is where true intimacy stems
from.
4. Look at women as real people, and do not put
them on a pedestal.
Because of the importance places on sex in your faith, it
might be easy to artificially inflate a woman's
importance.
You might see her as a delicate flower, or a goddess, or
something that needs to be cherished and treated special.
But women are no different from me. God cut us both from
the same cloth. To treat a woman as though she is special,
just because you are sexually attracted to her, is not the
same as respecting her.
It is easy to love an ideal. But it is hard to love the
reality. The woman who gets ornery when she's hungry, the
woman who nags you about taking out the garbage, the woman who
wakes up in the morning with bad breath - that is the
reality.
We have to learn to love the reality of women, and not
idealize them. Realize that sex is just one aspect to the
females of our species. And that being human, we all share
similar traits.
When we see girls as people, just like us, we are able to
get a clearer picture of whether or not we are meant to be
with them.
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Wishing you success,
Author of The Art Of Approaching Women
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